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KIRSTY G

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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 1:45pm

Tricky questions ...

I don't think i've ever posted in the parent section before (i'm not sensible enough), but thought I would ask some opinions ...

Thomas (my 5 year old) has always been the inquisitive type :rolleyes: , and asks lots of question, and we've always said that we'll never lie, and always tell him the answer to any question he may have, but that he might not be old enough to understand what we tell him. He's been fine with this, and we've succesfully navigated the "where do babies come from?", "Why is that man pushing that woman into the wall?" (in response to him coming down in the middle of the night when hubby and I were watching Sex and the City) and the "why is that lady kissing that other lady?" .... he knows the answers to all these things, and not just the birds and bee's version.

I was watching Friends last night, when Thomas asked me "what's a condom?" (bloody friends, and I thought it was safe), to which I told him that when men and women don't want to have a baby they have to use condom ... which he seemed to understand ... only thing is, i'm worried now that he'll talk about it at school, and some of the other parent may not be quite as open with their kids as we are ... Should we be telling him these sorts of things? How would any of you feel if your kid heard something from another along these lines ..
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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 1:50pm

I think you are doing the right thing

Better that he hears a boring version from his parents than an inaccurate rude version from peers or older children. And better that he knows than being like me and ignorant and teased for it because I didnt really know what sex was until I was 13+

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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 1:51pm

Kirsty

My sister is the same with my neice and nephews. There is no point lying to them as you spend your whole life telling them not to. I think that nowadays parents are more open with their children but it's knowing how to manage it. I am sure he will have forgotten about it today, and I bet most of his school-mates now already anyway.
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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 1:57pm

I think you are doing the right thing. You are not giving silly information, just basic stuff. Surely better that than hearing it from oldr kids with extra's!

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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 2:03pm

ditto to all of the above. I plan to do the same.






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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 5:34pm

Me too, if they're old enough to aks the questions, they're old enough to recieve honest answers. Will someone remind me off this when my daughter is asking me awkward questions!




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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:14pm

Cheers girls .... turns out it wasn't as forgetable a conversation as we thought :rolleyes:

He's just told me that his friend Ryan at school once got in trouble for blowing them up like balloons when he found them in his dad's bedside table ... I have no idea how that conversation got started ?( and i'm not gonna ask ....



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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:18pm

My dad told me that a condom was something that my mother bought by mistake...
ANd me and my mum blew them up like baloons when they got divorced :( wish I could forget...

Have you seen Little miss sunshine? Great movie! Great way of telling young girl about things...
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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:23pm

No not seen it ... think I will now though, there are a few things I could do with knowing ;)



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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:37pm

I think you did the right thing. If you talk about things in a matter of fact way... they become matter of fact. The fact that him and his mate have talked about it is the first step in him discussing these things in an everyday fashion.

We watch discovery health a lot and my daughter's used to seeing childbirth. My sister's a midwife so all our children are used to frequently hearing very indepth and descriptive conversations. My 11 year old neice even does the hand gesture for vaginal examination if she's saying "did you examine her Mum?"... Rose will know that one :D



Yesterday I had a conversation with DD1 (aged 7). We were stood grooming the pony when I said...

Me: Aww, he likes being scratched on his gelding scar.

DD1: What's his 'gelding scar'

Me: Where his errr testicles were

DD1: (loudly) TESTICLES????

Me: Yes ... *thinking* errr 'balls'.

DD1: Oh! :D *thinking* "eurgh!"

Me: :D


She's also seen me cleaning out his sheath, she thinks it's gross and she's also going to fall over laughing when she sees a human sized willy :laugh:




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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:40pm

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Originally posted by Bells

She's also seen me cleaning out his sheath, she thinks it's gross and she's also going to fall over laughing when she sees a human sized willy :laugh:


I was gonna ask what a 'sheath' was, but I think it's clear enough whoops3



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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:42pm

I never found cleaning out the sheath disgusting. Also when it came out you could pick the flakes...
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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:44pm

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Originally posted by Torisen
I never found cleaning out the sheath disgusting. Also when it came out you could pick the flakes...


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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:48pm

It's not flakey, the little pone's is quite clean and shiny but he gets a lot of the black/purple stuff (smegma for those who are interested :D ) inside. I don my latex gloves and use a bit of KY jelly then have a root about.

Kirsty, I'm sorry this is turning into a horse penis thread but I just have to share.... :D The sheath is a bit of skin on the outside, the penis lurks deep within normally but is 'dropped' for certain things. There is often an accumulation of stuff inside the actual penis called a 'bean' which can cause big problems and needs to be checked every 6-12 months. I 'cleaned' my Mum's horse for her a few months ago and was in up to my elbow trying to get to the root of the problem. My daughter was spectating :D I sure hope she doesn't treat her future boyfriends in the same fashion rotf




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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:52pm

Every day's a school day Bells

(I've just read this peeping through a tiny gap between my fingers ... a la scary film)



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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:54pm

Bells, you are talking aout that black greasy stuff aren't you? Smegma!??
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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:55pm

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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:55pm

Quick, go and tell your son what a 'bean' is :D


Read it yourself here... a very funny and descriptive way of learning how to clean your horse's sheath.

http://www.equilog.com.au/sheath.htm




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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 6:59pm

Yeah .... I'll pass thanks



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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 7:06pm

lmao


Well don't ever say that this site isn't informative!!!!!



Wella :D Yup... smeggy smeggy! :D




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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 8:39pm

Bells, tell me why you prefer to keep boy horses rather than girl ones!




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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 8:42pm

The girls have the same between their nipples, just not as deep.
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Wednesday, April 18th 2007, 9:02pm

...and every season girls squirt gunk all over the place .... bleurgh!

...and mares are 'mareish', they have hormones just like us and they have moods.


Nope... we don't 'do' mares! :no:




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