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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 2:51pm

As i am not a mother yet, i cant help my SIL with this question......

My Nephew is 10 weeks old and from day one has been an extremely hungry baby sos much so she only breastfed for 2 weeks due to him wanting to be constantly latched on.

now at 10 weeks old and still no comfort for him even from the hungry baby formula, the health visitor has told her shes got to put him on solids as in purreed veggies and liquidised meals.
has anyone experienced such an early weaning before or does anyone have any other tips she can use.
she a first time mummy and is scared she doing something wrong.

the other problem she has...(still on the eating topic) is that because hes such a gutsy baby and she has been feeding on demand (practically all the time), shes in trouble with the midwife because he was 7lb 6-ish when born and 10 weeks in hes now at 14lbs 9oz and the midwife is going crazy at her.

any advice or help would be appreciated please.

i dont know what to tell her except she certainly ISNT a bad mother (as shes beginning to think). :sadface:

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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 3:00pm

IMO 10 weeks is early and my own HV was really against weaning before 6mths but at a push would ok 5mths all to do with inside development.

This thread may be of help on my own post (within) I have added some links

Fussing about Milk - Time to wean?

If baby feds on demand how often and how mu milk is consumed in a day & is it Hunger upset or Colic?? Colic can be soothed with sucking hence the seeming always hungry.
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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 3:16pm

Mmmmm my mum mentioned this because he is constantly knawing on his fist.

he does about 8-10 bottles per day and they are always full bottles. i dont know about the oz too much really only that the bottle is full lol.
i tried to get him to suck a dummy when i had him but he doesnt go in for that at all.
i also tried him with some drink, they brought me juice bottles, and he had them but since he had juice he was constipated.
shes swapped to water to give him something instead of milk so he doesnt get too big but he only has a bit of that.

i will check out the link now.

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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 3:18pm

I would say definitely not to wean. At 10 weeks the gut is not developed enough to handle solid food. She risks making him ill in later life if she weans now. What exactly is happening when he is 'not settling'? Is he in pain, crying? I would get him seen by a kind and thorough doctor to make sure he is healthy and the HV isn't just assuming he's hungry when he cries. At 2 weeks being constantly latched on to the breast is quite normal so he's not 'hungry' just doing what babies do. How much formula is he taking in 24 hours? Is he vomitting? Weeing and pooing ok? He may just be not settling 'cos he's teething or he just is a grumpy baby.

Also I would advise that she doesn't get him weighed and that the midwife minds her own business. How dare she imply that she is doing something wrong? Its hard enough being a new mum without that kind of hassle.

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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 3:29pm

Hi I did a bit of googling and not one pg reccommends weaing under 17 weeks all say idealy 6mths.
Mrs J is right in saying the H/V should not have advised your sil or anyone to start weaning at 10 weeks if anything happened to a baby because of weaning early the HV would be out of a job

This was a good read
http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/agesandstages/baby/weaning/

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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 3:30pm

i will get more facts but hes not a particulaly grumpy baby.
he is definately too nosey though coz he never sleeps in the day time and seem to want to be constantly moved, like jiggled around.
tbh, i've never known such a restless baby.

hes just started sleeping through from roughly 8 - 8 so he is getting sleep.

i will show her your replys and mention about getting him a thorough check by the dr.
i thought this was too early for weaning.

maybe i can get her to change midwives too.

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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 3:33pm

Good luck with it all, let us know how you get on x x x

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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 3:50pm

Billie, it sounds to me from what you say that he is just an inquisitive little boy who likes lots of attention, nothing wrong with that. If he is sleeping 12 hours at night, then he probably isn't hungry. How much formula is he having in a day?

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Thursday, August 7th 2008, 4:01pm

That HV sounds really mean in my opinion :cross:

How dare she make your sil law feel like that?

10 weeks definately is too early to wean. Like the other ladies say, all the research suggests that it is ideal to wait until 6 months. I can't understand why a professional would suggest otherwise?

I hope that your sil realises that she is in no way a bad mum!

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Billie, it sounds to me from what you say that he is just an inquisitive little boy who likes lots of attention, nothing wrong with that. If he is sleeping 12 hours at night, then he probably isn't hungry. How much formula is he having in a day?

i will ask sil for measurements in oz and i really dont know how much he eats only that he has 8-10 bottles per day.
i will ask her though and see what you think. if its too much or just right

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Friday, August 8th 2008, 7:25pm

I'm surprised ( and a little jealous :innocent:

) that he sleeps 12 hours a night at 10 weeks. We were doing dream feeds with A before our bed time and night feeds for way longer, so the little fella's not hungry overnight.
I'm no expert but I totally agree at 10 weeks it's far too young to be weaned. A was a sucky baby and would feed constantly it seemed but half the time he's latch on and go to sleep, so we gave him a dummy and his feeds really came together.

Check the oz's hunni cos that'll give us more of an idea.

Blinking HV's though, they're more trouble that they're worth.

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