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Monday, June 9th 2014, 11:44pm

Twin dilemma!!! Please help!!

Hi all. Hope everyone is well. I haven't posted for such a long time because I just haven't had a chance. I occasionally check in for a little snoop though.
Any way I would just like some feedback/advice.
My boy/girl twins are now 3 and my little girl is 1. My baby is peace itself, not a bit of bother. However my twins are so badly behaved. My little boy is so much worse, he is far older than his years but now my girl is copying him and with added diva & squeal :-(
I have never overcompensated for them being ivf/prem/twins so I know I can rule all of that out. They're just so naughty. I've tried everything :( I work with kids 3-5yrs so the age isn't alien to me. I'm just at my wits end with them.
Can any if you twinnie parents relate?
Thank you xx
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Tuesday, June 10th 2014, 7:48pm

My twinnies are 2.5 years now and can realate.....normally seems to be when they're tired or hungry I've found. I also think it's pretty hard for them as they are always fighting for attention. You say you have a 1 year old which might have made them start to misbehave too I suppose. It's a nightmare at times isn't it?,
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Wednesday, June 11th 2014, 7:12pm

I can definitely relate, my two are 3.5yrs and over the last year I have seriously considered locking them in a cupboard because they were driving me to distraction. When however, I thought about it rationally I realised that they were just pushing the boundaries plus fighting for attention. Therefore as you also have a baby, I am sure your twins are fighting even harder for your attention and what better way to get it than being naughty!

I would however say that I think we turned the corner about 4-5 mths ago, which was as much to do with my reaction to their behaviour, I no longer scream and shout. Rather I give firm boundaries. For example tonight Oscar would not brush his teeth, so I told him if he did not brush his teeth by the time I counted to 3 they would only get one bedtime book and not two. He refused and they only got one book (many tears were shed) he did eventually brush his teeth and said sorry and begged for a second book, but I said no and calmly explained why. I know tomorrow he will remember the consequences and therefore brush his teeth.

When I say I don't scream and shout, I should say 'I try not to....' Before those words, as we still have our moments. However, I would say my change of reaction has been the turning point in their behaviour.

All of the above was driven by a dear friend of mine, who knows who she is (from this site) and her coming to stay and explaining to me why my reaction to their naughty behaviour was just adding fuel to the flames.

Good luck, it does get better, I promise!

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