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mrsjasper

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Monday, January 22nd 2007, 9:47am

When I go back to work M will be in nursery 1 day and with MIL 2 days a week. If I pay MIL for childcare does she have to register as a childminder? If I just give her cash for 'expenses' does that count as paying her?





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Monday, January 22nd 2007, 10:04am

not sure about that one --- I plan to do the same as you - my mum will watch Gregor for 2 days and I'll do something else for the other ... although not quite sure who or what mmmmmm ... I;m due back at work in May and think to begin with my mum will do all 3 days - then DH hopes to use annual leave during the summer hols to work 4 days per week which will take my mum down to 2 days and then I'll get something arranged for after school starts back --- that way I feel as if I'll ease myself back in to work with my mum just watching Gregor before I have to think about leaving him with a stranger :tears: ---- all of this is of course dependant on my work confirming that I can go back 3 days :pray: - I've sent an email and am just waiting for a reply.

Sorry - totally hijacked your question with my ramblings ... I'd say your mil wouldn't have to register as a child minder .. she is watching her grand-daughter - I used to send money up with Callum to my mums some days and say that when they were out Callum was buying lunch and things like that but didn't actually pay her

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Monday, January 22nd 2007, 10:16am

humph April. In the meatime we keep buying those lottery tickets!





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Monday, January 22nd 2007, 11:20am

i am hopefully going back for 3 days a week too - i want to send T to nursey though, (DS loved his nursery), although, i much prefer to stay home, its just not possible. Nursery fees are in excess of £150 per week in my area.







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Monday, January 22nd 2007, 1:20pm

Mrs J - I'm not sure if she has to register as a childminder "legally" but if you wish to claim Working Tax Credits for what you pay her she will need to register. I'm not sure if it the same in all areas but previously new Childminders had to do a course and then be assessed by Ofstead, now they can be assessed first then do the (evening) course while already minding. It is quite in depth to become one now from what my friend says, need certain toys and everything but may be worth looking into?

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Monday, January 22nd 2007, 1:45pm

I'm not going back - no point I only work 3 days and childcare x2 is 180 pounds - my mum has offered but she also looks after my baby niece - so 3 babies under 18mths will drive her potty, she insists it wont.

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Monday, January 22nd 2007, 1:52pm

you cannot use families member as a register childminder, they dont allow it. they will not pay for it

but the government are trying to stop this and want people who want to register as a childminder to get pay for looking after their own family children.

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Thursday, January 25th 2007, 11:24am

thats what i thought too vic. in a way it is good though, as a granny day is lovely for kids if possible, but they might be put off if they have to be subject to ofsted inspectors!

i start back three days next week. strawb is at nursery now on a settling in visit. its awful at the mo. she cries her heart out when we get in the car, screams at nursery when i leave and today made herself sick in the process. my only consolation is dh has shifted his rota so he will have every friday off between now and the end of the academic year- so she will only be in nursery two days. she desperately needs it to socialise and stimulate her, but its so hard hearing your child cry like that when you leave them!
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Thursday, January 25th 2007, 2:57pm

Oh no poor strawb. ;( It will do her good though :D

Yes you can't claim if a family member looks after your baby. And i'm sure if you want to pay her thats up to you!!! My mum has mine and i don't pay her, just treat her every now and then!!! xxx
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Thursday, January 25th 2007, 5:12pm

she had a ball once she got over herself. she toddles round after a lady called mo and helps clean everything. I am training her well!
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Thursday, January 25th 2007, 5:18pm

would she be free for some after playgroup work veg :listen

glad she had a great day :))

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Thursday, January 25th 2007, 6:26pm

Aww bless her!!! Little strawb mop!!! xxx
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Thursday, January 25th 2007, 10:02pm

aww that sound awful vegemite, little strawberry crying so much. it must be a hard thing for you to watch your daughter like that.

but it will do her good veg, she will settle in no time

please give her :hugs: from me




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